Wednesday, December 26, 2012

5753 Coventry Parish Road


5753 Coventry Parish Road was the parish house of one of the oldest churches on the Shore.  It was situated on a quiet street next to the the Old Rehoboth Presbyterian Church in the middle of Westover. The tall, white farmhouse was the home of the Crosley’s, an Italian-American family of seven. Their family and mine have been intertwined for almost fifteen years. The oldest daughter, Joanna, and I have been the closest of friends since we were eleven and twelve; we were even maids of honor at each other’s weddings.  Peter and my two brothers, Daniel and Donovan, have been inseparable. We were all home-schooled together in middle school and attended the same private high school.  I was the constant babysitter of the younger three children for over ten years.  I’m as close to Regina as I am to my own mother.

Their home was the quintessential Eastern Shore farmhouse.  The bedrooms were arranged on the top floor and the living spaces on the bottom.  It boasted an enclosed front porch and plenty of cheerful flowers around the front door. Their house abutted the old cemetery of the Presbyterian Church.  The yards were expansive and were dotted with magnificent trees just the right size for climbing.  As we aged, the backyard play things changed: a tire swing, a trampoline, and a giant rope ladder. A small vegetable and herb garden grew next to the clothesline.  

The central room of the house was the kitchen.  It was not a quiet room. There was constantly someone washing a sinkful, or two, or dishes.  Food was always being prepared or consumed. Everyone would gather around the table multiple times a day.  The table dominated the room and was used for everything: homework, meals, art, games, even a hiding spot for the little ones. When my family helped them move into the house, we could hardly fit Regina’s great table through the door.  Once, we squeezed seventeen people around that table, the youngest sitting on the oldests’ laps and couples happily squishing up next to each other. Even though it often wasn’t comfortable, it was cozy.  It was at that table that I learned to cook dinners and Ray, the middle Crosley, perfected baking desserts. Joanna spent a summer tye-dying everything she owned there. This was the table of engagements, wedding planning, and baby showers.  It was also the table of sorrow and death. My mother and Regina would sit for hours at that table with a cup of tea after their close friend, Jackie, passed away.  We sat there in silence when there just were not words.

There were weeks that I hardly saw my own house; I was sleeping in the purple bedroom just off from the top of the stairs. That room was too small for two teenagers and the baby of the house, but we made it work. There were three windows, each facing a different direction.  There was a bunk bed that Joanna and Danae shared and just enough room on the floor for me to roll out a small air mattress.   This was the room that kept all of our secrets.  The walls knew every wish, dream, and new love we had.  On the summer days it would grow too hot to be confined into that room; we would bike down to the water or the woods to escape the heat.  We’d bike to abandoned graveyards and write stories about the lost souls living there.   

This house was my sanctuary of hope four years ago. Joanna and Pete had moved away for University, she to study painting and he for business; I had just dropped out and was living in an apartment in Salisbury while working a menial job.  My mother had moved away for a job and my father had passed away a few months prior.  My boyfriend was finishing up his degree several hours away and my brothers had joined the army.  I felt alone, but only on the days I wasn’t at 5753 Coventry Parish Road.  Every Thursday evening--or other day I had off--I would drive thirty-five minutes south just to sit in that kitchen.  I’d come in after my work shift was over, no matter the time, and be at home. I’d sleep in the purple room with Nay and make up tea for the boys after dinner. I’d watch Danae for Regina and was a companion to the middle two boys. Regina and I painted Pete’s old room for Robby and I made checkered curtains for the windows.  We painted the living room and the kitchen.  We repainted the kitchen when Pete came home and accidentally set the stove on fire.    

No one lives there now.  Joanna married a schoolteacher and moved away to start her own family.  Peter graduated with his degree in business this past year.  Ray, once a boy I babysat, is in his first year of college in New York City.  The rest of the Crosley’s moved up to Annapolis into a beautiful home near their family.

We said goodbye to that house this past summer. We said it to the kitchen that had seen and heard so much.  We left the great trees in the back without any children to climb them. The tire swing only moves when the wind blows hard enough.  The purple bedroom sits completely empty of dolls, hair brushes, and books; those walls will keep our secrets forever.  The living room is naked without Joanna’s paintings.  The plumbing in the bathroom still leaks, but no one is there to hear it.  The house is standing still and empty.  It is waiting.

I wonder what will happen to that house.  Will it remain empty until it becomes too old and run-down to be livable?  Will another family move in?  Who will they be? I’m curious about what will happen to it. Perhaps I don’t want to know.  Perhaps I’d rather it just lived on in my memories.  It may not have been my house, but it has been my home.

Narcissistic Update

I know that I rarely update this blog, but I have a few things that I might share in the upcoming weeks.  I have been writing some short stories and narratives for various people and now that I've forced them to read my drivel, I'll probably share here.

Tuesday, October 30, 2012

Winter Wars

Hurricane Sandy has just passed over, leaving behind the beginnings of wintery weather, and thus beginning the Winter War.  In our house, Matthew and I bravely battle each other for the title of Winter Warrior; the loser is designated the Winter Wimp.  The whole point is to see who can last the longest without turning on the heat. Here is how a typical battle might play out:

Marion: Cold yet?
Matt: Heck, no! This blanket I'm wearing is merely a fashion accessory.  Very in right now, I might add.  You are though, aren't you?
Marion: Nope!  Feelin' great.  I'm shocked that more people don't wear their hats and mittens inside. 

A few days later ...

Matt: You know, Sally looks a little cold.  Maybe, we should think about her.
Marion: You wimping out?
Matt: Of course not!  On second thought, she has a fur coat and those shivers are probably just wiggles of extra energy.

Even later ....

Marion: How about we turn it on low, for just a few hours in the morning to take the edge off for the cat.
Matt: Right. That shouldn't hardly count -- it's for her.

And that's how it continues, until one of us can no longer type, knit, or move since they are wearing 4 pairs of mittens, three spare blankets, and all of their socks.

Friday, August 3, 2012

Summer Burgers

Matt and I have been craving Southwestern flavors: chili, tomatoes, peppers, etc.  Luckily for us, this is the perfect time for that since all the farmer's markets have tons of fresh vegetables begging to be made into something yummy.

These are not your traditional American hamburgers since there is only half a pound of ground meat.  We've cut back our meat consumption to about once a week; in fact, the last few times we've eaten burgers we have experimented with different meatless varieties such as chick peas, black beans, tofu, etc.   However, today both of us were very excited about the prospect of eating meat which is why we also included a few strips of turkey bacon!

Most cooking I do is loosely based on a recipe.  This, however, is one I came up with for tonight's dinner using ingredients I found in the fridge. Matt requested that I write it down, so I figured I would share!

Southwestern Burgers
makes about 4 burger patties

1/2 lbs any lean ground meat (beef, turkey, chicken, or meat-less product)
12 oz of black beans (drained and rinsed)
1 small bell pepper (I used yellow)
3 oz of sliced black olives

Garlic (freshly grated or minced)
1 Tbl. chopped onions

Add the following spices to taste:

Cumin
Chili powder
Paprika
Dried red pepper flakes

Garnish with:
Fresh tomatoes (we used yellow and reds)
Sliced bell peppers
Turkey Bacon

Directions:

Combine meat, spices, garlic and onions into a large mixing bowl. Next, add the beans, pepper, and olives mixing well.  Shape into patties

Garnish with fresh tomatoes, pepperjack or colby jack cheese, and freshly sliced bell pepper.
**This recipe can be easily double for company -- just use full cans of olives, and beans!

Thursday, February 2, 2012

Sally-Cat, the Anthropologist?


I was cleaning my apartment earlier, and I stumbled across this strange notebook hiding under the couch.  Apparently my cat had chosen to study my husband and I for her field research.  I have copied an excerpt below.  

A Thorough Study of Ailurophilic Humans as Perceived by a House Cat:
 A Scientific and Objective Approach to the Bipedal Way of Life 

Journal Entry December 21st, 2011 

I watched those clickety-clackers dance back and forth for over an hour before I discovered what it was named.  I believe The Female calls it "Knitting".  Again, with those opposable thumb.  What an impressive evolutionary achievement (*note -- see if those appendages grew to compensate for their seemingly lower intelligence and diminsished agility). As I watched her carefully, I decided to test what happens when I disrupt the rhythm of her pattern. Patiently, I calculated and performed some energetic pounces and "accidentally" became entangled in the yarn. I was most surprised at her response.  The Human untangled me and patted me on the head.  That must mean some sort of affection?    Strangely, when The Male sat on the yarn, she punished him with loud shrieks and harsh tones. 

Later on in the evening, I was ill again.  The Humans* keep giving me this strange sort of substance they call "kibble".  It doesn't set well on my delicate palate, but until I learn their language I'll just have to make do with what I'm given.  

* This is their preferred self-description.  I will still continue to refer to them as "Bipeds" or "Two-Legged" so as to avoid confusion. 

Journal Entry December 23rd, 2011


Bizarre behavior from the Two-Legged -- They both rushed around like mad and then left the house shouting strange phrases like, "Where are my socks?" and "We need to beat traffic!"  I have learned that the word, "traffic" is a terrible curse word in the Human vocabulary.  It is also something that these two fear above almost anything else.  

Journal Entry December 24th, 2011

Both of The Bipeds are back, however the two of them are busy redecorating their cave.  I mentioned previously that they spent a great deal of time covering boxes with brightly colored paper a few weeks ago.  Now, they are ripping all of it off the boxes and making bizarre squealing sounds. I believe this is the human emotion "excitement".   More details on this strange ritual are in my field notes -- Vol. 3, p. 78.

Journal Entry December 25th, 2011


Both humans slept later than usual today.  When they awoke, they greeted me with two new salutations, "Merry Christmas" and "Joyous Late Solstice".   I believe I interpreted both correctly.  According to my recent research, Christmas is a holiday celebrated by many people near the end of one of their calendar years. A common custom is the exchange of gifts.  In a touching gesture, I was given a giant, red "stocking" filled with gifts.  (*Note to self: research the meaning of "stocking" and discover its purpose.)

As an update to a question I noted on June 15th, 2011:  Sally IS the name they have given to me, not the name of all cats.

Tuesday, September 6, 2011

A Steamy Relationship



A sudden cacophony of voices erupting from the alarm clock propels him out of bed, dislodging me from sleep in the process.  He heads to the only object worth mentioning this early, while I follow, stumbling along blindly.  We enter the kitchen and flick on the lights, startling the cat dozing in front of the refrigerator.  She stretches languidly and shakes her head.  It is now time to begin our morning ritual. 
            It sits on the counter, well-used and surrounded by accessories.  The morning ceremony we perform is centered around it.  It is the reason we wake up each morning.  He opens a cupboard door and proceeds to pull out a handful of small, dark beans smelling of soils and far-away spices.  As he prepares the offering, I carefully fill up a glass decanter with water.  A few moments later, a loud whirring noise announces the transformation of those beans into a gritty powder. After careful measurement, he scoops the grounds into the basket above the carafe.  Quickly, the waiting water is poured into the reservoir in back of the machine.  Soon, a thick stream of murky brown liquid is dispensed into the waiting carafe.  We anxiously watch dribbles of coffee dancing down through the spigot.  As our morning beverage brews, alertness begins to percolate deep inside us.  
            So far, not a word has been uttered; words are not necessary for this process.  Tearing my eyes from the constant dripping, I pull down two mugs, warming them on the top of the DeLonghi coffee maker.  Glancing down at the digital display, I note that there will be time to enjoy my cafĂ© while working a crossword.  “Creamer?” he asks.  The first word of the day has been spoken.
            A sudden, load gurgling announces the end of the brewing.  Desperately, we fill our glasses to the brim, with just enough room for a bit of sweet cream.  I slowly stir my coffee, watching the rich color dissipate into a warm, velvety milk chocolate.  I can still hear the hissing and boiling of the coffee pot as I take my first sip.  I perch on the counter-top with my eyes closed and hands wrapped tightly around the scalding ceramic mug, only to be nudged by the cat reminding me it is time for her breakfast.  Inhaling the steamy aroma of the coffee, I unfold myself and finish up my morning routine with one hand constantly gripping the gradually cooling cup.
When I am finished, I return my cup to the dishwasher and he follows suit.  Silently thanking the coffee pot, we leave the kitchen, ready to begin our day.  Stepping out into the parking lot surrounding our building, he kisses me and then we go our separate ways. 

A few hours later, I stand in line waiting for the barista to announce my order; I have come to pay homage to it again.

Sunday, September 4, 2011

Applesauce Bread and Grandmas


Grandmother. Memere. Grossmutter.  Mommom.  Gran.  Nonna. Mimi. Nan. Grandma. Babushka. Abuela.  Nana. Mamaw.  Nonni.  G-ma.

We all have different names for our grandmothers, but in the end they're still our grandmothers. It doesn't matter if you knew yours or if she is still around.  It doesn't matter if she looks like Mrs. Claus or she runs marathons.  We love our grandmas (even if sometimes we are a little scared of them).

My Grandma means the world to me.  I've always thought so.  In my senior English class, I wrote a paper about her.  I wish I could find a copy of it or remember what it said, though I doubt it did her justice.  I lived with my grandparents for a while when I was younger, and she was there to help raise me.  She has been a source of strength to me throughout my life. Even now, she always makes a point to call and encourage me and to send me funny cards no matter where I'm living or what I'm doing. She probably knows what is going on in my life better than I do! 

Grandma has been an inspiration -- I don't know anyone as brave, hardworking, or down-to-earth.   My grandparents have never had much money, but they make a point to help everyone.  My grandfather still works on the school bus, and he always keeps an eye out for kids that might need some help or encouragement.  My grandmother cooks for a local drug rehab center, her church, and a local camp.  She spreads love though her food. 

One of my favorite wedding presents was given to me by my Grandma. She gave me her mother's recipe box filled with hand-picked recipes that either my grandmother or my great-grandmother had loved.


As a tribute to my grandmother,  I'd like to share a recipe that she gave me.  Actually, this one came from my Great-Grandmother.  I have tweaked it some, but it's still her's.

Applesauce Bread

1 1/2 c. applesauce
1/2 c. shortening, melted
3/4 c. sugar
2 c. flour
2 tsp. soda
1 tsp. cinnamon
1/2 tsp. cloves
1 c. raisins or craisins
1 c. walnuts (optional)

1. Mix applesauce, sugar, and melted shortening.
2. Dissolve baking soda in a little hot water.
2. Add all dry ingredients, then baking soda. Mix well.

Bake at 350 degrees F for 45-60 minutes.

** I use craisins -- it's less authentic, but sooooo tasty!
YUMMY!

Friday, August 12, 2011

"HUSH!"

Sometimes I have an uncanny resemblance to a stereotyped librarian. I never stop reading and always carry a book on my person. I even wear glasses, though not the horn-rimmed ones Hollywood has librarians wear. I enjoy making pots of tea.  I also prefer books to most people. Last, but not least, I always have to resist the urge to squash children who mistreat books.

However, if anyone calls me "Marian the Librarian", I will employ my vast knowledge acquired from countless murder mysteries and spy novels.

Trail Mix Cookies

Vacation is JUST around the corner and since we are planning on doing quite a bit of hiking, I decided to make Trail Mix Cookies to take along.  The best part about this recipe is that it can EASILY be adapted for a vegan or lactose-intolerant recipe.  I've included those directions.

A note about the trail mix:  You can use pre-made trail mix, but beware of the salt content in them.  I would recommend making your own (it's cheaper and better!!) using raw nuts and good dried fruit.  I used raw almonds, cashews, and sunflower seeds and dried cranberries, blueberries, and bananas. (You can see mine on the left.)




TRAIL MIX COOKIES! 
  • 1 c. butter / butter substitute* (I used vegan Earth Balance)
  • 1/2 c. sugar ** (Sugar in the Raw for better flavor)
  • 1 c. brown sugar
  • 1 tsp. vanilla extract
  • 2 eggs *** (I used 1 egg and 1/2 mashed banana)
  • 2 c. whole wheat flour
  • 1 tsp baking powder
  • 2 tsp. baking soda
  • 1/2 tsp salt
  • 1/2 tsp cinnamon 
  •  1 1/2 c. oats
  • 1 1/2 c. mixture chopped trail mix (I used almonds, cashews, sunflower seeds, dried blueberries, cranberries, and semisweet chocolate chips.)
*  You can also substitute1/2 c. pureed fruit or applesauce with 4 TBLS of oil for 1 c. of butter.
** I usually add just a little less sugar than the recipe stipulates
*** 1/2 mashed banana = 1 egg in sweet baking; in this recipe I highly recommend the banana -- its adds great flavor!
  1. Beat butter, sugar & brown sugar until light and fluffy (about 2 min), then add eggs and vanilla.
  2. In a separate bowl, combine the flour, baking soda, baking powder, cinnamon, and salt.
  3. Slowly add dry ingredients to wet while mixer is on low speed.  Mix until JUST combined.
  4. Stir in oats and trail mix.
  5. Chill for 30-60 minutes.
  6. Form into 1-1/2 inch balls and bake at 350 degrees for 9-10 minutes.
Yields about 36

Buon Appetito!